Post by Morgan McCaffrey on Jul 23, 2015 6:47:48 GMT -8
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FRIENDS have been few and far in between for Morgan, but those he has are as close to him as the moon and the stars (metaphorically speaking of course, since in reality those two are nowhere near each other). It’s hard to get into his comfort zone, mostly because he deems about 90% of the population undeserving of his free time. Outside of work it’s just as hard, since he’ll usually decisively jam his headphones on his head, literally tuning you out, and edge away. It mostly works too, but there are a certain few with a special touch that manage to make him feel a bit more at ease. This is all it takes, really. You have to be able to understand him without, therefore having a certain intuitive sense, because he’s not certainly going to make it easy for you.
The key is not to shove yourself in his face (this tactic will cause an instant shutdown) and instead appeal gently to his interests. Keep an open mind and respect his quirks. Once you get him talking, and if (big if here) you pass the vetting process, then Morgan is yours forever. He’ll confide in you, ask to hang out, attempt to look after your health, and stand up for you (which can be honestly terrifying) if the situation calls for it. This is outside of work hours, of course. During work hours it would be the same, but much subtler, though rest assured he now certainly cares much more about you. Personality-wise, anything goes so long as you approach him the right way, although he usually does not tolerate incompetence, weak wills, or naivety.
Another tip if you are a co-worker (more power to you) is to make yourself as efficient and thorough as possible. He won’t praise you overmuch, but you will notice his appreciation at some point or the other. He’s had to contend with a lot of dunces and every one-in-twenty people that can actually excel at their job are a blessing and a miracle. It will be easier to try to get into his good books outside of work (he would be more open to an invitation to dinner, for example) if you’ve already garnered favour with him.
If you become friends don’t expect any special treatment, though. The same amount of snark and glances filled with malice will come your way, except you can relish in the knowledge that he doesn’t 100% mean it (only about 40% maybe). Also, you might be invited to partake in any malevolent ribbing he chooses to engage in at the moment, so prepare your comebacks and sniggers. Or, you could be that one friend who just looks on sympathetically but at the same time making a ‘what can you do?’ face to the victim.
ENEMIES are generally a one-sided relationship, because Morgan is not the type to hold grudges or be vindictive unless he really has a good reason to be (in defence of a friend, for example). People read Morgan’s default withdrawn state as aloofness, condescension, and heartlessness, so they draw their own conclusions without even getting him involved at all. It doesn’t help that his resting face can look rather still. This is why he can make ‘enemies’ out of those good-hearted types who believe he doesn’t care about human lives at all. If he is forced to work with those who dislike him, so be it: his behaviour will nary change for better or worse, because while he can notice if people don’t like him, he doesn’t let it affect whatever task is at hand.
There are some types that certainly turn him away, though. Overly friendly, super-extroverted people who don’t know the meaning of a soft touch or personal space, those who are out to lick bums and lather on the praise, and those who are infected with hubris. True, Morgan is one of the latter sometimes, but he still likes to knock them down several pegs just to show that he can. Those who repeatedly mess up his workplace or his living space just for fun are high on the naughty list as well. For those that Morgan also considers enemies, be prepared for blatant shunning, ruthless retaliation, and glares that could fell a full-grown elk.
While he does have a generous capacity for being mean, the victim usually deserves it in some way or another (some work-related mishap or whatnot), although honestly it will seem harsh half of the time. His competitive vigour, while intense in the moment, does not extend beyond once the job/event/mission is over, so you can be safe in the knowledge that even though you might have beaten Morgan, he does not hold it against you once the competition in question has concluded. Life is too short to linger in the past.
LOVERS are typically close male friends who develop into something more. Morgan will have to be very, very comfortable indeed with whomever it is to be open to progressing the relationship to the next level. Oftentimes, the other party has to initiate, so they have to read the situation well as a misstep could potentially spell disaster to the base friendship. If you do manage to pull it off though, there’s not going to be anything subtle or slow about Morgan (he’ll become even more affectionate, among other things).
There are signals that Morgan will display: asking to spend more time with you, slightly more gestures of physical affection, a certain look in his eye, etc. He doesn’t look the type, but he tends to give off these very subtle hints that he’s interested, because fundamentally he does get quite shy. He’s not the type to just one-off (and no, not in the killing sense) someone; he prefers more lasting relationships. He does, however, get brief crushes easily, but they don’t amount to anything in his mind. It’s more of an aesthetic appeal when that happens.
Once again, however, don’t expect any special favours during work (if you happen to be working with him). Just the same old treatment, except with tiny, yet noticeable tweaks in behaviour. For one thing, if something were to happen to you, Morgan might actually let loose a tear or two.
The key is not to shove yourself in his face (this tactic will cause an instant shutdown) and instead appeal gently to his interests. Keep an open mind and respect his quirks. Once you get him talking, and if (big if here) you pass the vetting process, then Morgan is yours forever. He’ll confide in you, ask to hang out, attempt to look after your health, and stand up for you (which can be honestly terrifying) if the situation calls for it. This is outside of work hours, of course. During work hours it would be the same, but much subtler, though rest assured he now certainly cares much more about you. Personality-wise, anything goes so long as you approach him the right way, although he usually does not tolerate incompetence, weak wills, or naivety.
Another tip if you are a co-worker (more power to you) is to make yourself as efficient and thorough as possible. He won’t praise you overmuch, but you will notice his appreciation at some point or the other. He’s had to contend with a lot of dunces and every one-in-twenty people that can actually excel at their job are a blessing and a miracle. It will be easier to try to get into his good books outside of work (he would be more open to an invitation to dinner, for example) if you’ve already garnered favour with him.
If you become friends don’t expect any special treatment, though. The same amount of snark and glances filled with malice will come your way, except you can relish in the knowledge that he doesn’t 100% mean it (only about 40% maybe). Also, you might be invited to partake in any malevolent ribbing he chooses to engage in at the moment, so prepare your comebacks and sniggers. Or, you could be that one friend who just looks on sympathetically but at the same time making a ‘what can you do?’ face to the victim.
ENEMIES are generally a one-sided relationship, because Morgan is not the type to hold grudges or be vindictive unless he really has a good reason to be (in defence of a friend, for example). People read Morgan’s default withdrawn state as aloofness, condescension, and heartlessness, so they draw their own conclusions without even getting him involved at all. It doesn’t help that his resting face can look rather still. This is why he can make ‘enemies’ out of those good-hearted types who believe he doesn’t care about human lives at all. If he is forced to work with those who dislike him, so be it: his behaviour will nary change for better or worse, because while he can notice if people don’t like him, he doesn’t let it affect whatever task is at hand.
There are some types that certainly turn him away, though. Overly friendly, super-extroverted people who don’t know the meaning of a soft touch or personal space, those who are out to lick bums and lather on the praise, and those who are infected with hubris. True, Morgan is one of the latter sometimes, but he still likes to knock them down several pegs just to show that he can. Those who repeatedly mess up his workplace or his living space just for fun are high on the naughty list as well. For those that Morgan also considers enemies, be prepared for blatant shunning, ruthless retaliation, and glares that could fell a full-grown elk.
While he does have a generous capacity for being mean, the victim usually deserves it in some way or another (some work-related mishap or whatnot), although honestly it will seem harsh half of the time. His competitive vigour, while intense in the moment, does not extend beyond once the job/event/mission is over, so you can be safe in the knowledge that even though you might have beaten Morgan, he does not hold it against you once the competition in question has concluded. Life is too short to linger in the past.
LOVERS are typically close male friends who develop into something more. Morgan will have to be very, very comfortable indeed with whomever it is to be open to progressing the relationship to the next level. Oftentimes, the other party has to initiate, so they have to read the situation well as a misstep could potentially spell disaster to the base friendship. If you do manage to pull it off though, there’s not going to be anything subtle or slow about Morgan (he’ll become even more affectionate, among other things).
There are signals that Morgan will display: asking to spend more time with you, slightly more gestures of physical affection, a certain look in his eye, etc. He doesn’t look the type, but he tends to give off these very subtle hints that he’s interested, because fundamentally he does get quite shy. He’s not the type to just one-off (and no, not in the killing sense) someone; he prefers more lasting relationships. He does, however, get brief crushes easily, but they don’t amount to anything in his mind. It’s more of an aesthetic appeal when that happens.
Once again, however, don’t expect any special favours during work (if you happen to be working with him). Just the same old treatment, except with tiny, yet noticeable tweaks in behaviour. For one thing, if something were to happen to you, Morgan might actually let loose a tear or two.
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